Most of these are paraphrased from letters and phone calls with one of my older cousins, who is absolutely genius, incredibly wise & insightful & without her guidance I would not be where I am today.
http://www.lifehack.org/338209/trust-yourself-love-will-come-back-when-youre-really-ready?mid=20151126&ref=mail&uid=319272&feq=daily_
http://www.lifehack.org/317383/5-differences-between-real-love-and-attachment
http://www.today.com/health/why-men-marry-some-women-not-others-2D80555076_
- To have moments when you feel depressed or suffocated is normal, but if it becomes more than random moments or out weighs the "I am so lucky to have this person" moments than that is not great or healthy.
- Ideally you guys should be on a path where no one has to completely give up what they want in order to let the other person have what they need. It should be more symbiotic. Compromising or settling is an inherent part of any relationship but you should never compromise any of the big, important things.
- A relationship, however brief, is not in vain if you have learned about life, yourself, relationships and what you want and need. That self discovery is a journey that never ends and if you are on it wholeheartedly, the rewards only get better. Sometimes you can stay on a good path with the person you start with and sometimes the best way to learn, grow and have a happier, richer life is to go through the pain and turmoil of leaving. Then again sometimes the pain and turmoil of staying reaps amazing rewards. It's a question you have to answer for yourself.
- Balance space & attention, giving love and support without suffocation
- Ask without demanding
- The more you try to fit in to a box, the more you will hate yourself & no relationship, friendship or high functioning human can survive this way
- Read Dr. James Dobson's stuff
http://www.lifehack.org/338209/trust-yourself-love-will-come-back-when-youre-really-ready?mid=20151126&ref=mail&uid=319272&feq=daily_
http://www.lifehack.org/317383/5-differences-between-real-love-and-attachment
http://www.today.com/health/why-men-marry-some-women-not-others-2D80555076_